Do Women really not Care if their Guy is FAT?

And My thoughts on Weight in general......

Published on November 27, 2004 By TasT In Health & Medicine

In recent weeks there has been much tado about the Idolization of skinny chicks, you know, the supermodel type. Girls out there let it be known we don't want them! they are interesting to look at but, that's about it. For one thing none of them have any breasts and most of us guys like for our girls to have breasts. As far as it goes on the other end no we don't want overweight girls either. Most of us want to see a normal hourglass figure. A definite difference between the Chest, Waist and hips, if there isn't then get to work. Eat right, and mix in some exercise of some sort ( this goes for the rail skinny chick too with emphasis on the eat right). Nuff said on that subject.

Now on to what bugs me and really should bug you girls too.

In the circles I have to socialize ( if you can call it that) with I see too many FAT ( yes, I said FAT) guys with trophy wives or girlfriends. I understand that most of these guys either have truckloads of money or have the imminent potential to have it but, jeeez if your wife/Girlfriend is smokin' hot wouldn't you want to at least be presentable? What's worse is I see it even with regular people, big ol' fat guy with a hottie. There's just something wrong with that.

Don't you girls put some kind of limits on what you'll put up with? And don't give me the "we love what's inside" trip, you have to be attracted to the guy's appearance first under normal circumstances. Aren't you worried about the guys health? That's my thing, I wouldn't ever date an overweight woman ( If I lost my wife for some reason) because it's just not attractive and I have seen the health problems it causes with my mother and my wife's relatives. High blood pressure, high cholesterol, loss of strength, loss of stamina, depression, diabetes, problems doing simple things such as walking, etc.........

WE have a "FAT" problem in the USA and we need to fix it not make it OK. If you are FAT you need to do something about whether you are male or female. And Girls you need to put some pressure on your men to at least stay at a healthy weight as determined by him and his doctor, not by some BMI index or height/weight chart. Being FAT is not OK and neither is being Rail Skinny. We all need to strive to be somewhere in between, a healthy weight. Your life depends on it.

BTW I speak after being on both ends of the spectrum. I was way too skinny ( 5'6" and 120 pounds) a few years ago. So, I started eating properly and was a regular at the gym. Over 7 years I gained 50 or so healthy pounds. Then 2 years ago I stared back in school and didn't have time for everything, so the gym had to go. I went from 175 pounds and healthy to 180 and FAT in a matter of about 18 months. Since then I have squeezed in the time for kayaking and an elliptical trainer that I have and adjusted my diet for my current activity level. I'm now a fairly happy 150. Though I can't wait for the next year of school to be over so I can get back to the gym......

I know this post kinda wonders here and there, but hey, the Blogs name is TasT's RANDOM Thoughts.

Comments (Page 2)

iamheather

on Nov 28, 2004

I enjoyed the article TasT, as well as the comments. I think the break down occurs after marriage or a long term relationship. I was thinner when my husband and I dated; so was he. We had children, and we gained weight. We still each have the same basic body structure, but with a few added pounds. We both work out religiously, but let's face it, we will never look like we did when we were dating. Both our waists have a couple of extra inches.

In answer to your question...Do women really not care if their guy is fat? We care...we care so much for our man that we will encourage and support them through everything, whether it be weight that is unhealthy, smoking that is unhealthy, an addiction that is unhealthy....but we usually will not leave them.

Just my humble opinion.

Mercedes de Ranter

on Nov 28, 2004

Hehehehehehehehehehehehehe...
Damn first thing I thought as I saw this tilte.
That hour glass figure you like so much is a recent invention what was the prior term; rebenesque (check out those chicks... big wastes, chestes and hips (better for the kid to slide through) that was the preference back in the day.
I'm a guy; but a point on being too skinny does exist way to big a turn off as well as being way too big. I'm thinking that goes for both guys and girls unless the person happens to either have money, potiential to have it as some have mentioned, or have connections someone might want or if your waiting for the guy to literally eat himself to death so you women can collect. Sad enough we die prematurely now we have to die a little quicker

hhahahahhahahahah
ANyways, back to that hourglass figure and why I mentioned rubenesque: u.s. and other societies are all getting fatter so hour glass is going away plus that "normal" hourglass figure was never actually normal dude not in our lifetime that's just a tv image most people are that ugly /this in no way is supposed to be an insult/ beautiful people are the freaks. everyone else falls in between beautiful and my god what the F..k is that. ie ugly or plain. I prefer to consider myself....................

TasT

on Nov 28, 2004

Marcie

Maybe you should get a 30-second tv spot and be a savior to fat people everywhere!

JU is my 30 sec. spot

What I'm saying is...don't preach, and don't make decisions about fat people before you even know the story. There's usually alot more going on there than you would suspect. Overeating isn't always black and white...there's lots of grey involved.

There is alot of grey involved in how I do my taxes too. but at the end of the year I have to be honest or the IRS pays me a visit. I in the context of weight the IRS won't get you but the Grim Reaper will. bottom line is, If you are not at a proper weight for your frame you know it and there is no excuse for not doing something about it. You can blame emotional problems but that's just a cover up. The only excuse I can see is medical problems and even then you should consult your doctor and a dietician. They can help.

Heather:

I think the break down occurs after marriage or a long term relationship.

I see that often. BTW are you feeling better?

We care...we care so much for our man that we will encourage and support them through everything, whether it be weight that is unhealthy, smoking that is unhealthy, an addiction that is unhealthy....but we usually will not leave them.

That's good to hear, some of you girls are really dedicated and your men are very lucky.

Mercedes:

that "normal" hourglass figure was never actually normal dude not in our lifetime that's just a tv image most people are that ugly /this in no way is supposed to be an insult/ beautiful people are the freaks. everyone else falls in between beautiful and my god what the F..k is that. ie ugly or plain.

Dude I'm not talking about the TV image, I'm talking about a girl with a chest and hips with a real waist inbetween. The rail skinny chicks don't have it and neither do the overweight girls. And yes, I believe it is normal.

I went to a local bar and grill last night and just watched people. All but a couple of the guys were overweight to some extent, the majority of the Women were "Normal" ( had a chest, waist and hips). There was one freakishly skinny girl and one lady with a freakishly large pair of tits (and I do mean freakishly large) they were single and neither was getting very much attention. It still amazes me that most of these normal girls were with big guys, not obese just big.

moderateman

on Nov 28, 2004

Reply By: Texas Wahine Posted: Saturday, November 27, 2004
Like men, we women each have our own personal tastes. However, we are not nearly as hung up on appearances as you guys are. We are much, much more

Nothing like a overall generalization to make a fella feel good , that would be like me saying the females of the world just want security so they marry someone well off no matter how the man looks. get it>?

iamheather

on Nov 28, 2004

BTW are you feeling better?

Actually, I am not, but I am so stubborn and antsy. I cannot stand sitting in that bed one second longer. Zombie let me move to the computer chair for limited segments of time. I still cannot move my neck which is still incredibly swollen.

Thank you so much for asking and caring, though!

greywar

on Nov 28, 2004

Let's ease off the anti-fat guy propoganda shall we?

SSG Geezer

on Nov 28, 2004

HAha GW! Your wife is only proof of TasT's point in the article.

TasT

on Nov 28, 2004

Greywar:

Let's ease off the anti-fat guy propoganda shall we?

Ya know we love ya Graywar

SSG Geezer:

HAha GW! Your wife is only proof of TasT's point in the article.

Nice Jab!

SSG Geezer

on Nov 28, 2004

Thanks, It's because he's a large target.

TasT

on Nov 28, 2004

Thanks, It's because he's a large target.

A couple more and you'll have a KO!

Texas Wahine

on Nov 28, 2004

moderateman:

Nothing like a overall generalization to make a fella feel good , that would be like me saying the females of the world just want security so they marry someone well off no matter how the man looks. get it>?

I ain't talking out my ass here . . . it's something that can be proven. Take a look at all the hot chicks with less than attractive husbands . . . and then take a look at all the less than attractive chicks than can't find a man. Not all women are that way, and not all men are that way, but damn if there's not a trend going on there.

Mamashaman

on Nov 29, 2004

I totally agree with TastT about Fat men and I think we can thank TV for some (certainly not all) of this. It seems to be OK to have a show with a fat guy as the lead but he has a normal weight (or less) wife. In my part of the USA, I see the opposite, with a fat wife and a normal weight husband. No, I don't see this before marriage as much, but it is culturally correct here for a woman to balloon after marriage. How many size 28 wedding dresses do you see for sale in the want ads? None. They all say "wedding dress for sale, size 4, worn once". As a health professional I have heard all the excuses:metabolic syndrome, thyroid, hormones, genetics,etc. They all add up to the fact that if we eat more food than the body utilizes, we are fat. If we remain fat it is because we are unwilling to take the steps that are necessary to change this pattern. There is no magic remedy on the horizon and no matter how much we deny it, fat is NOT beautiful, NOT healthy, and NOT desirable for anyone at any age.

Moderateman

on Nov 29, 2004

Reply By: Texas Wahine Posted: Sunday, November 28, 2004
moderateman: Nothing like a overall generalization to make a fella feel good , that would be like me saying the females of the world just want security so they marry someone well off no matter how the man looks. get it>?

I ain't talking out my ass here .

um glad yer not texas cause I have trouble with speaking fart. lol and your aforementioned statement goes to prove {Take a look at all the hot chicks with less than attractive husbands . . . and then take a look at all the less than attractive chicks than can't find a man. Not all women are that way, and not all men are that way, but damn if there's not a trend } what I said hot chicks with not so hot men look at the mans bank account and you will see why the hotties are with them.

Texas Wahine

on Nov 29, 2004

what I said hot chicks with not so hot men look at the mans bank account and you will see why the hotties are with them.

I think it's sad that you feel that way about women, moderateman.

iamheather

on Nov 29, 2004

what I said hot chicks with not so hot men look at the mans bank account and you will see why the hotties are with them.I think it's sad that you feel that way about women, moderateman.

I think it is sad as well.

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