I Hate Posers

Well I used to.....

Published on August 19, 2005 By TasT In Misc

I hate "Posers"

Well I used to.

It seems that no matter what what group you choose to belong to there are always those who want to fit in but don't. They think that by wearing all the right cloths or saying all the right things that they can weasel their way in. We all know that it doesn't work.

When I was younger I despised and made jokes about the posers that would show up in the country bars and clubs that I hung out in. You could spot them from a mile away. They always wore what ever was the most expensive clothing and such that they could purchase in the western wear store and for some reason thought it was cool to have those little chrome tips on their boots.

I'm a couple years older now

and the "Posers" have changed, now they are wearing designer western shirts, Hilfiger and the such. Their manners are worse and they don't know how to tuck in a shirt but, that's OK.

I now realize that no matter what your group, "Posers" are a good thing. They are lining the pockets of the folks that run the business that support our chosen group. They may be annoying and you may want to punch them in the nose but, just remember they are supporting your cause and the trend will change soon and most of them will drift along with it.

My chosen group wont change even though it's not "Cool" anymore.

As Dolly Said, " I was country when country wasn't cool"

I'll be country cool or not as I suspect you'll belong to your chosen group no matter the coolness factor.

Comments (Page 2)

TasT

on Aug 21, 2005

I was also thinking that pretty much every group has posers or wannabes

That was the point of the article. Every group has posers. My particular group just happens to be in the country scene. I do not consider myself a cowboy, though I am a country boy.

Cowboys drive dualies with a hitch because they need it to pull their livestock trailer around. Nothing like watching a "cowboy" go out and load into a chevette.

TasT drives a 3/4 ton with a hitch but, sadly right now I have not the funds to have any livestock.

And your right a group of guys in cowboy hats loading into a small car is always funny....

ParaTed2k

on Aug 22, 2005

I was also thinking that pretty much every group has posers or wannabes. Look at all the little suburban kids wanting to dress tough like they're from the hood. Craziness.

Oh yeah!! I about fell over laughing once when a kid here in Sheboygan said, "yeah, I'm ghetto!" If he is he'd better move, the closest "ghetto" is 60 miles away! lol

dharmagrl

on Aug 22, 2005

To tell you the truth, with a few exceptions, this article has proven that you don't have to be wearing an Armani suit and drive a Lexus to look down on other people for what they choose to wear and how they choose to wear it.

Even cowboys are snobs.

TasT

on Aug 22, 2005

I think snobs is going a little far, but yes some country boys are......

I look at it like this, I don't go and try to fit in at the local dance clubs that play current pop and hip-hop, when I do go I don't change the way i dress or act to fit in then I would be a poser. I go as myself. A few months ago I would have been a loner in a club like that but, recently the trends have gone towards guys wearing western atire again. I still don't fit in but, at least I'm not the only one in a western style shirt.

The fun begins when theses trendies show up in the country bars decked out lookin' like they came right out of the 1984 movie "Rhinestone Cowboy " you can't tell me that isn't funny......

ParaTed2k

on Aug 22, 2005

Of course it's funny, but so is making fun of the guy in the Armani suit, and he thinks it's funny laughing at the rest of us. Laughter is a good thing.. right?

TasT, not to belabor the question (and if I missed your answer, forgive me), but...

What's the difference between a "poser" and someone who just wears boots, hats; shirts with pearl snaps and a yoke; or dusters?

dharmagrl

on Aug 22, 2005

think snobs is going a little far, but yes some country boys are......

I don't think it's going too far. You already looked down your nose at people who wear plastic boots and designer western shirts...that's snobbery, really.

look at it like this, I don't go and try to fit in at the local dance clubs that play current pop and hip-hop, when I do go I don't change the way i dress or act to fit in then I would be a poser

Here's a thought: perhaps the boys that show up wearing that gear do so because a) they're new to the country scene and don't know any better

can't afford 'real' boots and a hat (they're not cheap; I dropped $150 on my boots and hat and they were both on sale) or c) they trying to put an individual spin on their attire and make it more to their personal liking.

Being a poser to me means dressing the part but not understanding the philosophy or the true meaning of the concept. For instance, a Buddhist poser would wear the mala, maybe shave their head and wear robes, and make a big deal out of meditating in public where other people could see them...but if you were to ask them what the Noble Truths were of what the Eighfold path was all about they wouldn't have a clue. However, rather than blow them off I think that I would show them what Buddhism was really all about.

What would you think of them if they showed up at a country bar wearing hip-hop attire? Maybe they're simply thinking along the lines of 'when in Rome'.....

TasT

on Aug 22, 2005

What's the difference between a "poser" and someone who just wears boots, hats; shirts with pearl snaps and a yoke; or dusters?

A person who just wears the above list of things and is not trying to impress or imply that he or she belongs to said group is fine and normal. A poser one the other hand would be a person who goes into the groups hang out and tries to be something he or she is not.

I cannot go and buy myself and Armani suit and a BMW and istantly think that I fit in with that crowd. Nor can I put on my boots and hat and expect to be welcomed into the group of professional cowboys at a PBR or IPRA event.

I think in my circles it has more to do with how you approach things, If you act as yourself and do not try to put up a front through attitude, or try to buy acceptance you will generally be accepted into the fold and not be considered a poser. However if you come in with the attitude that you are all that and a bar of soap or if you try to buy your way in by having all the right atire, vehicles and the such you will not be accepted.

TasT thinks that people should just be themselves.

TasT

on Aug 22, 2005

Here's a thought: perhaps the boys that show up wearing that gear do so because a) they're new to the country scene and don't know any better

A) I'll grant you that one

Justin Basics $49.99 @ shoe carnival, most any western sore or farm supply. My bangora hat was $19.99

C) Indivuality is excellent, though know the rules of your group before pushing into new territory.

What would you think of them if they showed up at a country bar wearing hip-hop attire? Maybe they're simply thinking along the lines of 'when in Rome'.....

Some do and I like it just fine, I would prefer a person be themself, than put up a front to try to be accepted.

Being a poser to me means dressing the part but not understanding the philosophy or the true meaning of the concept.

TasT gives dharma the trophy!

That's what I have been trying to say but couldn't find those simple words to explain it, thank you Dharma!

drmiler

on Aug 22, 2005

Oh yeah!! I about fell over laughing once when a kid here in Sheboygan said, "yeah, I'm ghetto!" If he is he'd better move, the closest "ghetto" is 60 miles away! lol

Me too. We have this little punk who lives behind us here in Pittsburgh. Thinks he's a gangsta. HA! Having lived in southern CA for quite a while I promply told told him that a "real" gangsta would laugh their butt off at him. Of course that would be "after" them seriously kicking his butt! He didn't care for my statement. I dunno why not.

ParaTed2k

on Aug 22, 2005

Thanks for the clarification TasT, me and my Garrand garnished boots (toe, not heel) thank you. ;~D

TasT

on Aug 22, 2005

me and my Garrand garnished boots (toe, not heel) thank you. ;~D

I hope you enjoy them, ifn it wasn't for our immagrant brothern wearing them I would probably wear'em on the heels, I kinda like that look, though the toe thing is just not for me...

So when are ya gonna make it down here and go out with 2step and me? Garrands and all

ParaTed2k

on Aug 22, 2005

Well, I don't know, being a Redheaded, Freckle Faced, Blue Eyed, Left Handed, Colorblind, Guitar Pickin', Harpoon Blowing, Paramedic Degreed, LDS, Disabled Vet... I'm not sure what we would have to talk about once I got there! ;~D

TasT

on Aug 22, 2005

Well let's see I'm a Redheaded, Blue Eyed, ambidextrious, ColorBlind, Banjo Pickin', AGS degreed, Vet that does not have any Garrands......
So I'm not sure what we would have to talk about either........

ParaTed2k

on Aug 22, 2005

Now I know why I wear them Garrands, no one would be able to tell us apart!! ;~D

Texas Wahine

on Aug 22, 2005

I think, as an adult, I've moved past the need to categorize people as "real" or "posers". I wear what I want, and I don't care if someone else thinks I shouldn't.

I have a tongue ring, and I adore the clothes at Hot Topic. I'm not punk, I'm not goth, and I'm about a decade or more older than the folks who typically shop there.

I'm not a poser. I'm me. I like what I like.

One day it's my pink chucks with the heart and skull shoestrings and a concert t-shirt, and the next it's a white button up dress shirt, a GAP denim skirt, and beige and turquoise sandals with 2 inch heels.

If it makes someone happy to see themselves as a cowboy, let 'em. If it makes someone happy to be a conservative Christian with a multi-colored Mohawk, why stop 'em?

If you like it, wear it. It's not being a poser. It's enjoying the details and options of life.

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